Fatherhood means being responsible, the bundle of joy that God has bestowed on us should be taken care of. Children are gifts from God and we are just caregivers.
They are God’s property and we will give account of whatever we did with them. Fatherhood has to do with providing for the children and also helping to shape their lives and become responsible citizens and adults.
At what age did you become a father?
I became a father at age 30. My first daughter is 21 and the second one celebrated her 19th birthday last week. When one looks at our cultural setting, people will say I started having children late but I don’t think I started late.
When I was 28 or 29 years, my mother started pestering me and told me to look for a wife; that it would not be nice if I had to use my pension money to buy the then University Matriculation Examination form (now Unified Tertiary Matriculation Examination) for my children. She would say since I had completed school and had a job, I should be responsible by getting married. That was her usual joke. I don’t consider it too late. Everything works according to God’s plan.
Did you nurse any fear before you married?
No, maybe because of my age, I was fully prepared. Everything has to do with planning. I waited because of the plans I had for myself. I had planned that before I started anything, I wanted to be responsible for myself.
I didn’t want any family member from my side or my wife’s to take charge of the wedding arrangement. I wanted to take charge of everything and to the glory of God, we were able to do it that way. We only received gifts on the wedding day.
We didn’t get loan from anywhere for the wedding. I had good plans after schooling and I thank God that I got a good job that was able to help me meet up with the needs. I was very prepared for fatherhood.